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As human beings, we all have values. As a speaker, I want to share my values—positivity, empowerment, and self-awareness—to impact audiences everywhere.
I believe a positive mindset will set you free. Negativity is a trap that stunts growth and success. And we know how important it is to grow and succeed. Looking for the positive isn’t always easy. But being thankful for things, even the little stuff, is a great place to start. Positive attitudes are like a magnet and attract good things. With the mental strength of positivity, I know anyone can tackle life’s tough challenges and grow from their experiences
Raised on KC’s Eastside, I never knew what opportunity was. It took being paralyzed for me to understand that opportunities come to those who create them. I am grateful for the experiences that have challenged and inspired me. Now I’m motivated to empower others to be more confident in themselves and realize their potential. It’s important for everyone to pursue their passion and goals, and I especially want to fill that void in my boyhood community.
It took me a while, but I finally made it: I AM comfortable in my own skin. I know who I am and I’m happy with it. Realizing who you are can help you realize who you want to be, where you want to go, and how you can get there. And gaining confidence takes time and effort. For me, life isn’t about being better than anyone. It’s about being the best version of myself. You have to know and care for yourself before you can care for others. Being self-aware is invaluable.
Why I thanked the man who shot me - BBC Outlook
Watch 'Queer Eye' cast get the best surprise from 'hero' they transformed - The Today’s Show
Wesley From Queer Eye - Men’s Health
Queer Eye’ changed this Kansas City shooting victim’s life — and mine, too - The Kansas City Star
Queer Eye Season 4: Wesley – The Makeover and Reveal - Bobby Berk
Years ago, gunshot wounds left me with a spinal cord injury. I began a new life in a wheelchair and deeply depressed. But as a single father to my daughter, Nevaeh, I needed to change. Fitness and nutrition soon entered the picture, and I became empowered.
New health regimes helped me grow personally and professionally. I drew inspiration from my roles as a father and potential role model. I competed as an adaptive bodybuilder and spread positivity. Then, I established a philanthropic organization, Disabled But Not Really (DBNR). My mission is to bring positivity and hope to the disabled community and beyond.
My passion for DBNR is evident by its expansion. DBNR joins community events to raise awareness about the role of good mental and physical health in overcoming life’s challenges. We have expanded our scholarship program for disabled individuals who learn ways to improve their nutrition and fitness. We also support KC’s homeless population, providing dignity care packages, water, and food. And we are just getting started.
I have won bodybuilding competitions, philanthropic awards, and some even say, “the hearts of the world.” I transformed yet again when working with the Fab Five on season 4 of the Netflix hit show, Queer Eye. The Fab Five taught me how to be true to myself, and I was humbled by the experience.
I believe that the highest human act is to inspire. And that is my purpose in life. I work hard to deliver motivating messages on the power of self-love, resilience, and change, trying to make waves in the world. Are you ready?